It’s hard to ask for favors. It’s even harder to be in a position where you have to continually ask because your situation warrants it.
I know. I wish I didn’t but I know.
Last year when we had three cars and four drivers, I didn’t have my car very often. Usually my younger son would need it for school. Because my youngest daughter is homeschooled and we’re home a lot, that worked out fine. He could even run a few errands after school for me. It wasn’t until we had one vehicle commit suicide that we ran into problems. After months – difficult months – of having to ask for rides from people God worked the whole situation out.
Now fast-forward to today and we find ourselves back in the same vehicularly-challenged place. It’s humbling to have to ask people for rides again. I despise knowing that most of the time it means that they have to go out of their way to help me. As this continues I feel less of a whole person. I know it’s not true but it’s hard to ignore those feelings.
I pray the Lord helps me remember this lesson though. I know if I can remember these feelings it will make me a better person in the long run.
I believe that nothing is by chance or coincidence. I believe that God arranges everything and when we respond correctly He is glorified. The person standing in front of you with a need was put there by God himself – help them.
A few others things about being helpful that I need to remember :
- – don’t make them have to ask. If I know someone needs something, offer it even before they ask.
- – if it’s something they will need continually – like a ride to school – tell them ahead of time that I’ll always help them.
- – keep in mind that not having is harder than having to share. Look at helping as a privilege.
- – if I would do it for a family member I should do it for anyone. God hates favoritism.
- – it is far, far better to be able to give than to have to receive.
- – everything I have is God’s, not mine. God is glorified when I use everything He gives me to show love to others not myself.
- – when I feel like I’ve done enough for someone but they still need help, that’s God saying I haven’t.
- – going out of my way to help others is carrying my cross daily. Needing help is them carrying their cross.
- – my giving is not about me, it’s about them. Give them what they want not what I think they need.
- – never make them feel they owe me.
- – always help, give, love in a way that God, not me, is glorified.
- – be a cheerful giver.
- – people always need people. That’s by God’s design.